I hope you read this…

I often don’t regret things I have done. I regret leaving Pat with his dad. I thought, or rationalized, that Pat was good there. I am really starting to think I was wrong. Maybe a lot of what Pat has went through would have been avoided if he lived with me. I see how his life is at this moment and I just want to scream.

I took him to the dentist today. The dentist said he had really bad tarter and red gums from not brushing. When I talked to his dad his dad said he does brush his teeth. He said Pat goes in the bathroom and close door. Common sense would tell you to have him open the door and watch him brush his teeth. I had to actually BRUSH Sebastian’s teeth when he was 9 years old. He would sit in the bathroom for 3 minutes and come out with his teeth not brushed. This is his health. The kid already has issues with his teeth why make it worse? You can’t be that busy that you can’t take 3 minutes of your day to make sure the kid is brushing.

The things I hear him say. I take with a grain of salt. He is 9. He is also a very observant 9 year old. He sees things most kids don’t. I think it is amazing that some people will go out of their way to critize my parenting but will not do anything to help. If they are so damn perfect why don’t they prove it? Instead they make a child feel uncomfortable in their home. That’s much better. That proves they are perfect.

His dad is dragging his feet about telling Pat’s grandparent’s he won’t be attending Catholic schools next year. I assure you Pat will be here with his dad’s consent or a court order. It will happen. I am enrolling him in school up here. Yeah, it’s not the wonderful Catholic schools but it is one of the best schools in the state. They have teachers who know how to work with ADHD. His siblings go there. He has friends here.

The most important benefit, he has a mother and stepdad. His stepdad won’t send him away when I am gone. His stepdad will hang out with Pat, do homework with Pat, clean up Pat’s puke, love Pat. I will be here. I am always available for Pat. I may be busy but I will drop everything or rearrange my schedule to take care of him. When I can’t, Kris steps in. Because we are a team.

If this person thinks they are better, fine. If his dad doesn’t want to face the facts of what is really going on that’s fine. I will not sit by idly and watch Pat be shuffled between houses when he can live peacefully in one.

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